My First Fathers’ Day
Jun 06
So I’m going to be a Dad. That might come as a surprise for the neighbors’ daughter who recently asked me, “Are you a girl or a boy?” But it’s true, nonetheless. We’re pregnant!
This newfound category for myself has sparked a whole new chapter of thinking; immediately thrusting words like prenatal, 529, and nesting into my every day vocabulary.
After we found out (we got the good news on Mothers’ Day), my attention immediately turned to matters outside of myself. There is a chemical shift that takes place in the male brain when you learn you’re going to be a father. You can actually look back and see the gooey remains of your former self as you step forward into the gauntlet of Dad-dom. You crack your neck as though you need to test out this new beast of a body. Your sinews feel stronger. Your wallet is tighter. Your blood pressure raises and your eyes focus whenever you think about boyfriends and their hormones.
But the pride. That’s what’s shocked me so much already is the pride. I’ve never met my son/daughter (no preference, by the way) but I already feel such dignity for our family. I can now say I would die for my wife and our baby. No questions asked. Which is weird because mortality has always had a strong hand on me but now…. it pales in comparison to knowing my family is safe.
The age of decisions completely based on self want are out the window. This is the dawn of Strength in Numbers, No ‘I’ in Team, and Everybody Find Your Safety Buddy. My home recording studio/office is already empty and ready to be converted into a nursery. In true Dad fashion, I got overly excited and sold everything 7 months before I had to. Now I sit on the floor because I don’t have a desk or a chair. But pride outweighs self sacrifice. At least until I find a new desk and chair.
I’m sure I’ll write about it more. And I’m sure in 20 years I’ll look back on all of this and shake my head in silent pity for my young, naive self. But boy am I excited!
-J
Dear Reader: Are you a Dad with a good story about when you first learned about your new family? How did it change you?
Jordan is an actor/musician working in Orlando, FL, where he is tolerated by his lovely wife and their two dogs. 
You don’t know how excited I am. I can’t explain it. When you find out a friend is expecting, you want to jump up and down for them and I totally would but I’m afraid people would look at me strange where I am at the moment. I’ll wait until I get home
I do remember when Kevin found out, he started not a top ten list but a top 20 list. Within the first month he went out and bought a family vehicle. We were getting all kinds of things done. Buying this, selling that… I also remember on the way home after finding out we were having a girl and discussing the boyfriends to come and the guns Kevin wanted to buy. A friend of Kevin’s told him that once the baby comes, nothing in the world matters anymore and Kevin said he totally felt that once Brooklyn came into the world. I know for me I had not been around babies very much and worried about what to do and how I was going to be able to care for another life other than my own. Everything will come natural and you’ll firgue out what is best for your baby. I think the men feel the stress of providing and the women feel the stress of nurturing.
Well, I’ve wrote enough to bore you to tears. You are both going to be wonderful parents. And if you need anything, have questions or need support, we are here for you. Love you both with all my heart…Kimberly
Congratulations x a gazillion! See? I guess I must have had a preminition in (Apr/Mar when I saw you) when I asked you if you were going to have any. LOL.
That’s another thing about parenting–time flies and you lose concept of it, sometimes.
Just totally thrilled. This is going to be one happy, healthy, brilliant, weird kid. Mazel tov!
I’m so happy for you and Julie! This is such wonderful news, and you two are just wonderful people and deserve all the wonderful things. Much love from NY!
Awesome dude…congrats! So happy for you guys! Does the invitation to stay at your place have an expiration date now? hahaha
Jordan ….. So happy for you and Julie. You’ve already got the right attitude, inspiration and dedication to create the greatest role of your career. I predict an Academy Award. God Bless.
billy